Infidelity
I think that nearly everyone will know someone who has either been cheated on or been cheating on their partner. I think that many will know first hand the pain that it can cause. What are the reasons for unfaithfulness? Is there ever a valid excuse?
I guess the first thing to look at would be to decide what unfaithfulness is, what is infidelity? Some would argue that you aren’t cheating until you have slept with someone else, the ultimate act of infidelity; representing the complete betrayal of the person you’re with and so usually irreconcilable… if detected.
I think that the unfaithfulness comes much before this final betrayal, whether it comes from the first kiss or even just from flirting I think it’s our feelings and our intentions that let us know if we are being unfaithful.
The lecture prompted much discussion on the subject of infidelity, where I was sitting we talked about the reasons for infidelity, we discussed boredom, physical attraction and the failure to communicate with your partner. I think that if communication was improved between couples then infidelity would be greatly decreased. If a relationship gets to the point that you don’t want to be with your partner intimately any more then surely that should be discussed with them before you look else where to replace that intimacy.
The media surround us with stories of infidelity, whether it’s in the latest soap opera or the latest celebrity scandal on the front pages of the tabloids. We are faced with infidelity on a daily basis but does this raise awareness of the pain infidelity causes or does it merely desensitise and glamorise being with more then one person at a time? It’s hard to say as we can all interpret things so differently, one thing it does do is show us examples of the excuses others use to be unfaithful.
I don’t believe that there is ever a valid excuse for infidelity whether it is revenge, boredom or simply a strong attraction to someone else, an excuse is merely a justification, all the excuses can be resolved through discussion with the partner, leading to either a break-up or a stronger relationship, either way avoiding infidelity.
Besides, a wise man once told me “justification is like masturbation, the only person you screw is yourself”!
This is a great web page that gives loads of information about infidelity and how to deal with and detect a cheating partner, very interesting: http://www.infidelityfacts.com/
I think that nearly everyone will know someone who has either been cheated on or been cheating on their partner. I think that many will know first hand the pain that it can cause. What are the reasons for unfaithfulness? Is there ever a valid excuse?
I guess the first thing to look at would be to decide what unfaithfulness is, what is infidelity? Some would argue that you aren’t cheating until you have slept with someone else, the ultimate act of infidelity; representing the complete betrayal of the person you’re with and so usually irreconcilable… if detected.
I think that the unfaithfulness comes much before this final betrayal, whether it comes from the first kiss or even just from flirting I think it’s our feelings and our intentions that let us know if we are being unfaithful.
The lecture prompted much discussion on the subject of infidelity, where I was sitting we talked about the reasons for infidelity, we discussed boredom, physical attraction and the failure to communicate with your partner. I think that if communication was improved between couples then infidelity would be greatly decreased. If a relationship gets to the point that you don’t want to be with your partner intimately any more then surely that should be discussed with them before you look else where to replace that intimacy.
The media surround us with stories of infidelity, whether it’s in the latest soap opera or the latest celebrity scandal on the front pages of the tabloids. We are faced with infidelity on a daily basis but does this raise awareness of the pain infidelity causes or does it merely desensitise and glamorise being with more then one person at a time? It’s hard to say as we can all interpret things so differently, one thing it does do is show us examples of the excuses others use to be unfaithful.
I don’t believe that there is ever a valid excuse for infidelity whether it is revenge, boredom or simply a strong attraction to someone else, an excuse is merely a justification, all the excuses can be resolved through discussion with the partner, leading to either a break-up or a stronger relationship, either way avoiding infidelity.
Besides, a wise man once told me “justification is like masturbation, the only person you screw is yourself”!
This is a great web page that gives loads of information about infidelity and how to deal with and detect a cheating partner, very interesting: http://www.infidelityfacts.com/
I have posted a comment about infidelity here: http://invincibles49.blogspot.com/
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